September 8, 2013 at 3:03 am #13504
Kathy JohnsonChallenge Achiever
Since I’m not usually one to use forums and social media, I have a general question. Any tips for someone wanting to become more social media savy? For example, as I work towards following up this challenge with magcast and other immediate edge training a, I realize I should dive in and familiarize myself with these things ASAP…
….my problem is an old lingering (and admittedly idiotic) fear that has caused me to avoid things like Facebook. I was a bullied child growing up and to this day those old traumas plague me more than I’d like to admit. I’m terrified of running into old classmates and their opinions of what I might create…adding to this is the opinion of my family about my attempts to start a writing career and online business….
….I’m not sure how to manage my own lingering insecurities, staying the course, not to mention their criticisms…
Any thoughts much appreciated…
September 8, 2013 at 3:39 am #13513
- This topic was modified 2 months, 4 weeks ago by Bill Thomson. Reason: More informative topic title
Dallas PearceChallenge Author
This is the internet, you can be anyone. Create an alternate persona and dive in safe behind your shield of anonymity.
Or, ask yourself one question, do you want to start that online business for yourself, or to get praise or avoid criticism from people you know? What’s going to matter 10 years from now? what they might have said about you if you took the risk? or what you will think about at night when you realize you let all those dreams sit quietly in the corner because you were too worried about what other people might have thought?
Do you want your kids to grow up respecting you for chasing your dreams, and use you as a role model for their own lives? Or do you want them to grow up believing that they can’t chase their dreams because of what people might say about them if they do? They’re gonna learn a lot about how to live their life from you, so you’re gonna have to decide how you want to live your life.
Quitters never win, especially when they quit before they even start.September 8, 2013 at 3:54 am #13518
Sue StonesChallenge Achiever
You do have some control over what information you give people about on social media. Plus you have the freedom to create an online personality in you like, i.e. work under a “nom de plume”. Its not deceptive, people have been doing it for centuries, and today a large portion of musicians work under a “stage name”.
So you could brand yourself as Kathy J. for example, or Kathleen J. or use a middle name. Set up all your social media, websites, etc using your brand name. There is no need to mention school, or even family in your profile. If there is nothing to identify you on then no-one can use it to trace you.
Don’t put photos of yourself on your profile, then no-one can recognise you. If you are intending to have a business that remains online, and never have face to face contact with people, you can use photos of someone else in the profiles. Of course they have to be royalty free for the purpose. My suggestion would be to find photos of someone who looks very similar to you, then in the future, if you decide to replace them with your own photos or you make a live appearance, it won’t be obvious. (You can purchase royalty free photo from places like iStock – you need permission to use them for online and commercial activities.)
Take whatever steps necessary to be able to stick at this process. Once you have success you will have time to deal with the repercussions of your abuse.
PS. Feel free to contact me privately if you want some personal support.September 8, 2013 at 5:28 am #13546
Bill ThomsonModeratorChallenge Hero
I’m sure you’ll get a lot of advice & support here but I’m going to modify your post title to get it more attention & better reflect the help you need
BillSeptember 8, 2013 at 7:17 am #13584
Valerie PugsleyChallenge Apprentice
With Facebook you can keep your profile private and you don’t have to accept invitations from anyone you don’t want to. At sometime in the future if you decide to do a Facebook business page you can keep it separate from you by not liking the page.
Families often don’t get the online biz part and depending where you’re starting the journey may take a while. You’re in the right place, with others who are at various stages of doing the same thing. Learn from those who’ve done it before and develop/become part of communities that are going the same places you want to go.
Welcome and enjoy. This is my first 30 day challenge too. I’m looking forward to seeing what happens in Oct.
ValerieSeptember 8, 2013 at 9:53 am #13627
Carla LendorChallenge Hero
Twitter also give you the option to keep your chat privates and you also have the option to block offensive post on your timeline and report abusive post. You may wish to start by following people with similar business interest as your own and expand as you feel more comfortable. You have control over who you interact with. Just kee this in mind. Check me out on twitter @seobrat when you have taken the plunge. Be sure to mention #TDC13 so I give a quick follow back. Good luck in your quest.
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